SEARCHING MR RIGHT

this is from my freinds experience which i would like to put in words cause she is too lazy to type , and i found it rather interesting , than her interest.
PHASE 1

the beginning of college life, the new found freedom is all so very attractive, the gals and guys who were till now attending school , suddenly altogether become the dudes and the dudettes of their respective colleges, the change is tremendous, yes we do go to college but to bunk lectures rather than attend, yes we do write letters, but love letters, yes we do complete r notes , but just a day before submission..

now a mention of the viral infection one faces in college, be it the topmost science college, or the simple arts college, what one cant deny is the romance, the flirts, and ofcourse the couples..
The basic idea wich is more important here is "the teenage years" these years well can make u or break you, cause its this time that wants you to study at the same time follow trends and at the same time experience teenage love.

well as it was my friend who was till school a normal simple and intelligent gal also gave into this well not rilly give in...but we gave it a try!!


PHASE 2

college began wid the regular lectures , wich i hardly remember attending, and all the crappy assignments , projects, well when my mind was focused on studies ....my freinds mind was on something else , well to tell you the fact , by the end of first semester ...what r group was in the beginning had reduced to a group of couples where everyone except me and my friend was hooked.

this had a more severe impact on her than me had she realised the importance of me ...lolz.

nyways and so began the search , for MR RIGHT, for the guy my friend would date, for whom she would grow her hair long and would follow whatever he said, would come to college just to meet him, would write him letters ok now this was something completely funny for me to know, but she did tell me her plans and she did ofcourse involve me in the search!!

PHASE 3

this is what my friend categorised into all the boys she met during her search:
1. MR RIGHT but for marriage , i mean dis guy is the btech , mtech, earning ,listens to mom, and a guy one would like to marry. decent , respects girls, no nonsense guy.

(well we are just 18 so this was no choice, to be more precise we just kept him as a last option)

2.COLLEGE GUY this is from our college crowd, mostly the dudes, with spikes and brands, and deos in their bags rather than books, ever ready for gals, the flirts.
(these guys dont include guys from our group)

3.SHY GUY this may or may not be from your group of friends but is eyeing you, you turn back and you find him staring at you endlessly, but is to shy to come and ask you out, these are sweet and the romantic class, intelligent and innocent.
(these are generally a good choice but they are too dumb at times and silly)

4.MR CONFUSED i personally hate this category, they just think they like you, i mean they just keep thinking, and i really wish tehy just keep thinking and dnt come forward...these guys make gals wait
(i would never suggest her this guy , but)

PHASE 4
this is about the fight we had.
one fine day we both were travelling back from college home in bus, alon mind you are entire group(couples) went to watch a movie, i wasnt interested in the movie as well as their privacy so stepped back, my friend sad for her was angry dat she dint have a boyfriend to go with, and she removed her anger on me,

me: so why arent you talking.
s:(my frend) :just
me: arre bol na kya hua?
s: can't we get one single guy for ourselves?
me:for what?
s:to do our homework stupid boy friend
( she screamt the word boyfriend as if it was some life saving drug)
me: why all of a sudden u thouht of that?
s:look we didnt go for the movie, evryone in our group has got their own special someone, why arent we getting guys?
me: dont tell me u tried??
(ok we had spoken over this earlier that all had boyfriends and we didnt but still, i never knew all this affected her so much)
s:how is Jai???
me:who Jai?
s:Jai , arre dat guy in our lab, your lab partner!!!
me: his name is Jai? oh i didnt know! what about him?
s:is he good, i mean wats ur opinion about him?
me:for what homework no he is dumb, he was asking me sin 30 ka value
s:no dumb as in is he boyfriend material?
me:how the hell am i supposed to know?

i dnt know what was so wrong i said that she kept quite, well actually it was good that she didnt spekak ,but ofcourse silence spoke alot, i tried looking out of the window , trying to look away from her, it was not that i felt guilty or sad that we didnt have boyfriends, but somehow i wasnt the right person ,i wasnt good enough at consoling people, i meant ok there was a time when i felt we needed guys but that had not affected my life in a way it did my friend's , i mean we could still watch movies without them..!was that so serious.

PHASE 5

my only single friend gets into a relationship :(

ok and there was a day when i get a sms in the morning,
"hey , finally Jai asked me out, we r going on a movie date today, will tell you the details later"
ok now taht was a bit of shock i mean ok fine, but then il be like alone, il watch movies alone , ok i never really had pictured this, and i didnt want to, then the horrifying tag of "lonely amidst crowds" set up in my mind i dint think i needed one , but still was a awkward moment.
ok now i had to be this good girl who told my friends mom lies about us going together when only she went out!!!!

PHASE 6
the changes that take place

now my kind of good friend gets a boyfriend and i am happy for her , but then there are changes, things that come as a package wid a couple status,these were they.

me: so hows everything?
s:its cool re, being in love is so good!
he cares for me, we go out on dates , i like being with him,he doesnt like me going alone home, he drops me evryday..
me:cool
s:we are watching jaane tu on monday
me:we planned we would go together?
s:ya but he wants to see it with me, i cant tell him no naa...cmon yaar plz!!
me:hmmm(i felt like it was a sin falling in love, u dnt leave ur friends like that!!!!)

things changed with changing times,there were times when i felt she was wrong and then i felt i knew nothing , simply because i dint know what it was to be in love, finally the college virus had hit my friend and as far as i knew the last days of my college would be boring ,i had no group left,
well i did feel to find someone for me, but then ditched the idea, and changed my mind, well i was no good at wooing guys to an extent, i did go on a date that turned out kind of funny and later i dint really want to think on this, but my friend had been there done that, fallen in "teenage love"
well i was inexperienced and so didnt bother trying hard, and gave up...

PHASE 7

he leaves , has to go abroad for further studies. i m left to console my friend.

s:hey yaar what should i do, he is going
me: who is going?
s: Jai yaar , i dnt know why he has to go ?
me: to study i guess!!( wat a dumb question)
s:bye his call i need to talk to you!!!
shaam ko terrace pe mil
me:ok

like i had no other work and my life in college had passed helping my friends overcome the devdas situation, so professionalised i had become taht they knew i could help, i hate this, i knew as soon as i finish my college i wouldnt keep more than 2 friends!!! i m sick of this!!

PHASE 8

he leaves , and my friend is the new devdasin!!

she keeps struggling
the way it is and the days unfolds with tears and sleepless nights, and curiosity, and the days were filled with hopes and timings of when he would call, when he would speak to my friend, well i was sick again,, he's gone let him go a new bf wouldnt mind,
but my friend herself decides, i m not going in it again!!!! cheers to my friends brains!!!


PHASE 8

on the terrace,

i was standing there, nering the edge of the terrace, watching the small cars pass by, evrything here seems so small up above the heights, i thought to myself, the wind hit me hard on my face, i loved it though. i was thinking of what will i tell her , how will i console her, what was the drama she will unfold today?

s:hie
me:hie bol kya hua?
s:(pretending she is happy) kuch nahi , he is going abroad, but he promised to keep in touch,
me: (thinking its funny) oh so ul still carry on wid him?
s: ofcourse i love him yaar, and so does he!
me:(hmm may be, well long distant education suna tha, long distance romance!!!) ok so you still into this , are u sure?
s: haan m damn sure
me:ok fine good for you both

PHASE 9

i realised this would go on, and i didnt want her to be hurt whenhe left, but at the same time i wnated her to go through evry aspect of it , i mean you should experience the joy as well as the pain, it isnt that it would mind me, but i knew there was a phase she wished it never was in her life and i did wish the same!

s:yaar uska phone nahi aaya 4 hafte ho gaye
me:(thinking he had got someone else der) tune call nahi kiya?
s:nahi naa, kiya tha par utha nahi raha
me:wat do u conclude?
s:i mnot concludiong anything, wat do u mean?
me: be practical yaar
s:tujhse baat karna is dumbness, u will never understand me! have you ever tried and kept urself in my place, nah i shudnt ask , how do you know wat love is all about, you dint even have a crush, its dumbness
me:so!!! hows that related?
s: you just cant know wat love is you have turned emotionless, u hardly care for nyone, uve become rude , i dont know , i dont find you as you were earlier!!!
me:hung up the phone

well i was angry and irritated, this was a consequence of her love, why should i suffer because of her, i mean fine i dint understand wat she felt, but wasnt my fault at all that i couldnt place myself there, i hadnt bothered actually and why shud i, she had a life of her own, and i had mine, well i was selfish , but dats me, and she knew me well, didnt know wat love can do to all!!!

CONCLUSION

well we didnt speak for months, and later she called to apologise, butmy views had changed about friendship, and well ofcouse evrything connected to it, and i made up my mind, never to get into all this support system crap, especiaaly wen its love, i m bad a it. well Jai nevercame back, but my friend realised it late, she carried on wid his best friend, well may be to make him feel jealous, but that was it all so very fake, so very based on others, and so very not happening, so i stepped out of all the mess, well i wud be there if she needed me but she was not there nymore!!!
hope she finds the real meaning of relationship, hope Jai comes back and she slaps him, hope things get normal again.


p.s : i didnt get mr right yet, nor did my friend, she is still in search though,and i have given up the search, well if theres a mr right he will enter i need not search for him!